Quarantine and Ecopsychology: Nature is One Hell Of A Drug
A Quarantine Reflection by: Rachel Earthman
Covid: We Have Literally Pumped Our Breaks!
We are learning to slow down and see our lives up close – for better and worse !
Revelation Report 6
Revelation Report 6
Written By: Anonymous Client
I’m a survivor. I have gone through a lot of trauma and hardship and come out the other side. That I can say that means I can identify something (many somethings) traumatic that has happened to me as “in the past”. Not all of me has caught up to the present moment. There are fragments that are still stuck in survival mode as if i’m still enduring but at least now I can talk about those parts of me as something suffering from symptoms rather than living a life identified by those parts.
My life during the corona crisis has been revelatory in that my daily experience directly activates all these old hurts and traumas but in new ways. I’ve defaulted to a very familiar survival mode in the face of an oppressive emotional situation. I have been sad and angry that I have to be in this familiar place again, using survival tools that are all too familiar. I still barely drink alcohol. I eat healthy and light. I exercise every day. I lay in the sun and watch the herons and wild parakeets. I clean the house, shop and do the chores to keep our home life clean and positive. The life I learned to live and the life I have to live right now are very similar in my experience and I know that I will survive this intact and then some. I don’t feel like my life is on hold.
Not to say there isn’t a shadow side because there is. I am less angry and resentful that the life I’ve lived happened this way as I am that the very things i’ve done to succeed to this point also feel like debilitating handicaps in trying to live a life beyond. How do I live a life that embraces what I’ve accomplished and who I’ve become and also let go of that self, that ego to experience life anew? Maybe I’m asking myself a trick question. Maybe this is just more ego escapism arising from the very resentment I say is in the past. This isn’t a detached mental exercise for me.. .these questions are a source anguish and anger and even bitterness and intense discovery and hope. I do a good job of managing those emotions that I see take over so many my age.
The older I get the more I see I’m trying to thread the needle of not giving up and not giving in. The only way out is to wonder, to smile, to breathe.. to seek, to learn.. to love and be brutally fucking honest. Take the line from the song “I will survive”. I’d like to identify less with “survive” and embrace the reason I survived at all is because “I will”. I will overcome, I will thrive, I will love, I will create, I will express, I will succeed, I WILL.
Is your iPad the third person in your bed?
The cover on a recent Psychology Today magazine caught my eye. Menage A Trois, it said, with a photo of a couple in a bed. It took me a minute to notice where the third “person” was. And then I saw it, an iPad resting in between them. Then I started thinking.
Here we are in our busy lives. Tough schedules to keep. Not getting enough sleep. We all know that drill. But did you know that statistics indicate a majority of us go to bed every night with some kind of screen, whether it’s an iPad, a cell phone or other electronic device. I admit that most nights I do just that.
Reading a book in bed is different. The paper it’s written on doesn’t trick your eye and brain into thinking that it’s daylight, and the words on the page help make you sleepy. But a screen does the opposite. It can hype you up if you’re not careful and make it hard to relax and fall asleep.
So the next time you prop yourself against the headboard and reach for that little device, thinking you’ll only be on it for a minute, try to resist. Remember that the “extra person” in your bed will make it harder for you to fall asleep and deprive you of the energy you need to face the day.
The (Sometimes Hidden) Talents of ADD and ADHD
If you are an adult diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, you know your brain works differently. And you are probably aware of your challenges when it come to some life skills. But have you developed insight into your gifts and talents, into what makes you YOU?
When you think about YOU, do you consider the wonderful things you have done in your life despite your ADD/ ADHD? Did you graduate from college? Do you or did you ever have a good marriage? Are you in a healthy relationship? Do you have good friends you cherish and who cherish you?
What about the talents and skills you have because of your ADD/ADHD? Do you possess creativity, curiosity, love of learning, sense of humor, highly focused attention or entrepreneurship?
What traits, gifts or talents have made you special? How have those qualities made your life and the lives of those you encounter better in large or small ways?
When you consider the positive factors in your life, or the ways in which you have succeeded, you will see that traveling life’s journey with ADD/ADHD can bring many satisfying experiences despite the challenges you face.
Fire, depression and change
When I was 23 years old, the lake house that my family had entrusted to me burned to the ground. It was a cedar cabin, and when lightening struck one night, it caused an electrical fire. I lost all my possessions and the pets who were trapped in the house. This experience was a pivotal moment in my life.
After the fire, I soldiered on. I continued to work at IBM and go to school two nights a week. Then I increased my class load to four nights a week. Eventually I was forced to slow down because I became what they called back in the day clinically depressed, a condition now known as major depression. I went into therapy for the first time and found it to be a wonderful tool. That was a new beginning!
During this difficult but enlightening journey, my best friend sent me a card that contained the following quote from an Asian philosopher: “My barn having burned down, I can now see the moon.”
I began to understand that my loss was moving me toward change and growth. It enlarged my world and led me to new opportunities I might not have considered were it not for the fire. I gained a new freedom. The lessons learned were enormous and lasting.
Depression, no matter what its cause, can force you to deal with difficult experiences so you can move on. You no doubt have stories that reflect your adaptability, resilience, and determination. I invite you to share your story in as little or as much detail as you like. In addition, please feel free to post your story, comments or question.